We sometimes tell a trusted friend that we had a really great date, or we might mention that so and so has a hot ass or a big cock. We might sometimes say that a date wasn't very rewarding. But, as gay/queer men, we don't often share any details about the actions, exitement, hope, disappointments, sadness, ecstasy, pain, shame and what ever else can happen to us during sex. Our inner narrative about our sexual history and self usually takes place in some kind of isolation. We start with a guided inner work to gently dive into our sexual past: to look for highs and lows, certainties and doubts, moment of opening up and moments of closing down. In a ritual setting we will then share stories (leaving out references to names, times and places). The ritual will facilitate an intimacy that will, at least for the duration of our time together, make us feel we are not alone. We can learn from each other, laugh en cry with each other, be each other's mirror. Share your story, be a healer and be healed by talking and listening.